Have you ever observed how the things we give attention to appear to expand in our lives? It's not just a random occurrence. What we choose to focus on—whether it's our insecurities, strengths, resilience, and mental fortitude—tends to flourish. This is why being deliberate about our focus is crucial. Shifting our attention towards what we appreciate about ourselves, what truly ignites our passion, is where growth occurs and our lives transform.

Years ago, I specialized in capturing boudoir photography sessions with women, and it was truly one of my favorite types of photo shoots. Boudoir photography is all about creating an intimate and comfortable setting. I made it a priority to learn about my client's insecurities and preferences before the session. The questionnaire I provided included questions about what my client liked and didn't like about her body. Surprisingly, it was always easier for her to list the things she didn't like rather than the things she did like. God gave me a gift that allows me to bring out beauty and strength in women. This gift came in handy during those sessions.  I am grateful for this gift and I had to accept it before I started nurturing it.  

During her album image selection session, I used posing and lighting techniques to highlight what she was pleased with. She only saw the stunning images that showcased her in the best light.

It's not about ignoring the weeds or what we don't like, but recognizing the impact of where we put our attention and how it can affect our growth.

Here are three ways you can focus on what you love about yourself and allow it to flourish:

1. Identify What You Want to Grow

Take a moment to think about what you truly love about yourself. Maybe it’s your creativity, resilience, or the ability to make others laugh. Whatever it is, identify it, write it down, and say it out loud. When you recognize what you value about yourself, you may be surprised how many great qualities you have. This isn’t just self-reflection; it’s about choosing to nurture those traits. Focusing on these things allows them to become more present in your life.

2. Speak Life Into Your Strengths

Words carry power. The way you talk to yourself matters. Pay attention to your internal conversation. Are you constantly criticizing yourself, or are you speaking words of encouragement? Shift the conversation. Start affirming your strengths—out loud if you have to. "I am resilient." "I create beauty in the world." Watch how your self-talk starts to change your perspective. When you focus on speaking life into your strengths, it becomes easier to believe in them, and that belief becomes the fuel for your growth.

3. Make Room for What You Love

We often get caught up in distractions, routines, or worries that leave little space for the things that truly nourish us. To nurture what you love about yourself, you have to create space for it. Schedule time in your day to do the things that align with your strengths and passions. 

When you focus on what you love, that love will grow, and soon, it will begin to shape the person you are becoming.

Now it's your turn... Please leave me a comment below, share your thoughts, and let's continue this conversation